Hi.  My name is Sonia.

I help people navigate through real life. Messy relationships, sucky jobs, heartbreak, trauma, and dreams you’ve forgotten.

I believe in happiness.  I don’t believe in its relentless pursuit. I think a reasonable measure of happiness looks more like expecting joy but learning how to cope with what life throws our way.  With less resistance and more ease.

We get so caught up in what we think happiness is supposed to look like, with trying to do the right thing, and spending too much time thinking there's something wrong with us that we forget what it might really look like. 

I get it.

My journey as a sensitive person entailed trying to endlessly prove myself (perfectionism), trying to please everyone around me and moulding myself into a definition of success that didn't fit. 

This did not work out well. In my 20’s, this (amongst other factors) manifested in an eating disorder – and later a diagnosis of chronic anxiety and depression.  

I had no idea what self-love was because I didn't even know how to like myself.  I was just busy trying to prove something.

But for me, those dark times were a sucky kind of catalyst.  An invitation to step further into myself. To learn to be kinder to myself.  Along with my yoga, mindfulness and meditation practices (which fit perfectly with coaching), I found an acceptance I'd never experienced before.  I've practiced them for 13 years, and they filter through every aspect of my life.

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You can find this acceptance too. 

Through the way you manage and regulate emotion, through changing the thoughts and beliefs you hold about yourself, the way you are, and the world.  And through changing the way you see your story.

You can learn to show up differently - whether it's in your personal life, as a leader, or whatever role you happen to be playing.

It's not the easiest thing. It's the hardest thing. But the moment to moment long term changes are so well worth it, you won't regret you got started.

 Join Me. 

Sonia Voldseth - Life coaching New Zealand