The Power in Pain

The Power in Pain

But suddenly you’re ripped into being alive. And life is pain, and life is suffering, and life is horror, but my god you’re alive and its spectacular. - Joseph Campbell

We're all afraid of pain. We have to override every natural instinct that tells us to run from it. Running from pain is the natural thing to do.

Sitting with pain, and learning from pain, is counter-intuitive. It feels …. painful and shitty and gut-wrenching and heart-breaking.  We don't like it. 

I tried for a long time to run from pain. That's what I knew. I had lots of coping mechanisms to help me.  Food restriction, control, and working myself into the ground - to name a few.



 

The Joy in Surrender - How Depression Taught Me to Live Again

The Joy in Surrender - How Depression Taught Me to Live Again

Hon? Are you ok?” I looked up, my face covered in tears and snot. “I’m not sure”, I said.

I wasn’t sure. That was the hardest part.

More nights than not I found myself curled in a ball against the back wall of our walk in closet, my head on my knees. My husband would leave me, mostly, knowing that I needed the space. He’d check on me though, too. That time was hard on both of us.

Queenstown Life Article

Queenstown Life Article

Sonia is compassionate, kind and most of all real. She isn’t about making us strive for the unachievable ‘happiness’ so many others spout. She is understanding in that she too falls over and picks herself back up.

 

How Apologising is Sucking Your Power and How You Can Dare to Get it Back

How Apologising is Sucking Your Power and How You Can Dare to Get it Back

“Stop saying sorry”, he said. “It’s fine. And you should consider apologizing less.”

I hardly know this man, except for our conversations in the coffee shop.

My face flashed hot. My heart jumped awkwardly to my throat, and then back down.

His comment kind of pissed me off.

Actually, no. It did piss me off.

Are You Good Enough?

Are You Good Enough?

I haven’t taken many selfies lately. Why?

Because I haven’t looked good, that’s why.

I’m vain. And I’m afraid.

Not because I think you’re shallow. But because I think we all are.

Here is the truth. I don’t have it all together.

NO ONE HAS IT ALL TOGETHER.

Is Your Life Really as Perfect as it Looks on Facebook?

Is Your Life Really as Perfect as it Looks on Facebook?

“Most men would rather deny a hard truth than face it.” ~George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

So would most women.

This is the way we have encountered life so far. Better to show the world just the socially acceptable and shove the rest under the rug. That’s where the hard truths go....