Endings and Beginnings - Our Capacity to Rise

Endings and Beginnings - Our Capacity to Rise

Endings and beginnings. 

It's the season to ponder what we've done, what we've left undone (filling the advent calendar pocket again) and what we want to do moving forward. 

Traditionally, I've needed to do the Daily Grinch Check, to ensure I wasn't spreading more Bah Humbugs than cheer.  This year, more magic has found its way in.  I'm letting things be.  

I've also not been a fan of New Year's Resolutions.  I've viewed them as another way for people to set goals and then beat themselves up for not achieving them.  I prefer New Year's REVolutions - a way for us to nurture self-love throughout the year, using our goals as a springboard.

This year, a middle ground, a much more fertile ground -  has arrived.  Ouroboros.

What Are You Trying to Prove?

What Are You Trying to Prove?

I've had to ask myself this question too many times to count. What is it exactly that I'm trying to prove?

And it always comes back to this.  Am I good enough? Yet?

I was having a conversation with my hairdresser/landscaper this morning about the need to prove ourselves.  She sports red painted toenails, shiny blonde hair and legs that seem to reach her neck.  Also, on her days not being a hairdresser, she lifts heavy rocks all day.  Somehow she pulls this off. Also, she admitted that it's really hard to be a feminist and to ask for help.  

I Can't Do Everything, But I Can Do Something

I Can't Do Everything, But I Can Do Something

We need each other more than ever. We really do.

I read a proverb the other day that said, It is in the shelter of each other that the people live.

That seems the only way forward to me, probably to most of us. Also, it's also incredibly overwhelming. We all get caught up in our daily lives. We may feel overcome with sadness, pain or guilt about what is happening around us. We probably feel unsure what to do, thinking that it won't be enough. 
 

Does The World Feel Too Loud? The Importance Of Quiet

Does The World Feel Too Loud? The Importance Of Quiet

Do you ever feel like the world we live in is overwhelmingly loud?

We are bombarded with multiple forms of technology (often all at once), marketing everywhere, music blaring everywhere, vehicles, neighbours, barking dogs and all sorts of other things can be hard. Overwhelming. Difficult to deal with. 

I don't mean loud just in the sense of what we hear.  I mean an assault on all our senses.

Want to Feel Powerful?

Want to Feel Powerful?

We spend a lot of time thinking about what's wrong with us. We don't spend much time thinking about our strengths and what makes us amazing.  

We've learned that makes us seem arrogant or conceited. It also opens us to being whacked down like a tall poppy....

The Power in Pain

The Power in Pain

But suddenly you’re ripped into being alive. And life is pain, and life is suffering, and life is horror, but my god you’re alive and its spectacular. - Joseph Campbell

We're all afraid of pain. We have to override every natural instinct that tells us to run from it. Running from pain is the natural thing to do.

Sitting with pain, and learning from pain, is counter-intuitive. It feels …. painful and shitty and gut-wrenching and heart-breaking.  We don't like it. 

I tried for a long time to run from pain. That's what I knew. I had lots of coping mechanisms to help me.  Food restriction, control, and working myself into the ground - to name a few.



 

The Joy in Surrender - How Depression Taught Me to Live Again

The Joy in Surrender - How Depression Taught Me to Live Again

Hon? Are you ok?” I looked up, my face covered in tears and snot. “I’m not sure”, I said.

I wasn’t sure. That was the hardest part.

More nights than not I found myself curled in a ball against the back wall of our walk in closet, my head on my knees. My husband would leave me, mostly, knowing that I needed the space. He’d check on me though, too. That time was hard on both of us.

Queenstown Life Article

Queenstown Life Article

Sonia is compassionate, kind and most of all real. She isn’t about making us strive for the unachievable ‘happiness’ so many others spout. She is understanding in that she too falls over and picks herself back up.