When to Take Negative Feedback and When to Leave It

When to Take Negative Feedback and When to Leave It

Last month I wrote about positive feedback.  We all love it, but it can be hard to truly appreciate. This month - negative feedback.  No one loves it, and it can be even harder to accept.

In nature, or mechanics, "negative" feedback is designed to equalise.  A thermostat will turn off the heat when it reaches a certain temperature. Photosynthesis in plants which will speed up with increased levels of carbon dioxide.  It keeps things in balance.

For us, it tends to cause a shutdown.  We feel small, unworthy. It throws us off balance.

Want to Feel Powerful?

Want to Feel Powerful?

We spend a lot of time thinking about what's wrong with us. We don't spend much time thinking about our strengths and what makes us amazing.  

We've learned that makes us seem arrogant or conceited. It also opens us to being whacked down like a tall poppy....

The Power of Forgiveness

The Power of Forgiveness

You know that old saying, “Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting them to die?”

It’s so true.

Most people know they need to forgive in order to move forward.

We’ve received so many mixed messages about what forgiveness is and what it isn’t that sometimes drinking the poison seems like the best option we have.

Have you ever rushed to forgive someone but found it didn’t really work?